Thursday, January 18, 2007
Afraid of Success?
Afraid Of Success? was printed in The Arizona Networking News seven years ago. It is as timely now as it was then. 
Please Enjoy. ;) ~ Dr. InaNorma Yanez, CH.t
Success usually means feeling good about yourself. It is one of the single most valuable tools in a person's life experiences. Yet many of us feel afraid to succeed. When our patient, Mr. S. first told how he was raised, it became obvious he was suffering with a rather common ailment. His mother taught him it was a sin to fail.
Therefore, if Mr. S. simply did not try (as soon as something became challenging), then he couldn't fail or disappoint his doting mother. No more effort was put into the challenging venture. He was instructed to simply forget it ever existed or confronted him.
This rationale became ingrained in the child's behavior and was further rewarded by his mother whenever he would quit something he found hard to do. Only when success eluded him as an adult did the man seek counseling to find out what was causing so much chronic unhappiness. It did not take very long before Mr. S. realized that frustration with a lifetime of incompleted tasks and projects had ruined his life. Why have goals if you don't finish what you start? Without goals, there's no hope. How can a person be happy without hope? You should have seen his face when the
proverbial light-bulb went on.
Successes in life are also a heavy burden to carry. Many new responsibilities are bestowed on "THE SUCCEEDER!" From the patient's ordeal in his process of recovery came a simple and fruitful plan to approach the common problem of running away from life's challenges. One possible useful hint is to control yourself when starting new projects, especially if you see that too many others are unfinished. If you don't control yourself, you will invariably end up frustrated, with untied and dangling emotional ribbons.
It becomes easy to cop out and to say you are bored. "The discipline required to have successes is the test of your completions." (Insen 1975). And yes, there are some exceptions to the rule; some things are better left undone. But for the most part, these things are in the minority.
Please Enjoy. ;) ~ Dr. InaNorma Yanez, CH.tSuccess usually means feeling good about yourself. It is one of the single most valuable tools in a person's life experiences. Yet many of us feel afraid to succeed. When our patient, Mr. S. first told how he was raised, it became obvious he was suffering with a rather common ailment. His mother taught him it was a sin to fail.
Therefore, if Mr. S. simply did not try (as soon as something became challenging), then he couldn't fail or disappoint his doting mother. No more effort was put into the challenging venture. He was instructed to simply forget it ever existed or confronted him.
This rationale became ingrained in the child's behavior and was further rewarded by his mother whenever he would quit something he found hard to do. Only when success eluded him as an adult did the man seek counseling to find out what was causing so much chronic unhappiness. It did not take very long before Mr. S. realized that frustration with a lifetime of incompleted tasks and projects had ruined his life. Why have goals if you don't finish what you start? Without goals, there's no hope. How can a person be happy without hope? You should have seen his face when the
proverbial light-bulb went on.
Successes in life are also a heavy burden to carry. Many new responsibilities are bestowed on "THE SUCCEEDER!" From the patient's ordeal in his process of recovery came a simple and fruitful plan to approach the common problem of running away from life's challenges. One possible useful hint is to control yourself when starting new projects, especially if you see that too many others are unfinished. If you don't control yourself, you will invariably end up frustrated, with untied and dangling emotional ribbons.
It becomes easy to cop out and to say you are bored. "The discipline required to have successes is the test of your completions." (Insen 1975). And yes, there are some exceptions to the rule; some things are better left undone. But for the most part, these things are in the minority.
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Very good article. It is a temptation to quit when I get hit with several challenges at the same time. Especially when I feel a bit overwhelmed, it is tempting. I think it's very interesting that you sent this article today. Earlier, I had listened to a Joyce Meyer lesson about not quitting, and know that God will help take you through tough times. Only have faith and you will be strengthened for the task. How timely! Thank you for sharing.
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