Thursday, January 22, 2009


Words of Wisdom, Author Unknown To Me

This was sent to me by a longtime reader of my blog.
The Author Is Unknown to Me. ~ Ruby *o*
A Birth Certificate shows that we were born.
A Death Certificate shows that we died.
Pictures show that we lived!
Have a seat . . . Relax . . . And read this slowly.
I Believe...
That just because two people argue,
Doesn't mean they don't love each other. And just because they don't argue, Doesn't mean they do love each other.
I Believe...That sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, But that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
I Believe...That we don't have to change friends if We understand that friends change.
I Believe...That no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
I Believe...That true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.
I Believe... That you can do something in an instant That will give you heartache for life.
I Believe...That it's taking me a long time To become the person I want to be.
I Believe...That you should always leave loved ones with Loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
I Believe... That you can keep going long after you think you can't.
I Believe...That we are responsible for what We do, no matter how we feel.
I Believe....That either you control your attitude or it controls you.
I Believe...That heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.
I Believe...That money is a lousy way of keeping score.
I Believe..That my best friend and I can do anything, or nothing, and have the best time.
I Believe...That sometimes the people you expect to kick you When you're down, will be the ones to help you get back up.
I Believe...That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had, and what you've learned from them.....and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.
I Believe...That it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others.
Sometimes, you have to learn to forgive yourself.
I Believe...That no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.
I Believe...That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, But we are responsible for who we become.
I Believe...That you shouldn't be so eager to find Out a secret. It could change your life Forever.
I Believe...Two people can look at the exact same Thing and see something totally different.
I Believe...That your life can be changed in a matter of Hours by people who don't even know you.
I Believe...That even when you think you have no more to give, if A friend cries out to will find the strength to help.
I Believe...That credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being, ....or even educated since we can buy diplomas = (ruby yanez).
I Believe...That the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon. ....ahhhhhhh yes, much too soon! (ruby yanez).

Friday, January 16, 2009


Other Peoples’ Emotional Baggage = OPEB

Other Peoples’ Emotional Baggage = OPEB
By Dr. InaNorma Yanez, Ch.t

What is emotional baggage? I wonder at how accepting many of us are with other peoples’ emotional baggage because we are also accepting of our own.
Sometimes we do not even realize that negative habitual behaviors are so damaging. Most especially is it damaging if we have lived a lifetime seeing it repeated by our role models and/or ourselves. Parents, relatives and close friends are very instrumental is shaping our emotional baggage. A baby is usually born an innocent and is then shaped by the many forces surrounding its new life. Additionally, if you believe in reincarnation, we bring issues from our past lives that are still unresolved.
Before we move forward on this subject, can you go back to your earliest memories and see when certain negatives began? If not, don’t stress… since eventually you will see more clearly if you choose to pursue it.

I have been counseling for many decades. Along the way it has become clear to me that I myself have allowed others to interfere with my well-being by behaving in a way that is offensive to me. As I come closer to these truths, it means I must make choices. If the interferences are fix-able and we can discuss how to positively change what is truly bugging me, I choose to continue relationships. If for some reason after trying our best, we simply cannot change, alter, or improve the negatively perceived treatment, I now bid you peace and move on. How did I come to this place of thinking? Certainly not because I am any smarter than the vast majority. Perhaps I am more disgusted and tired than I used to be when younger…. or perhaps it simply became time to say “ENOUGH ALREADY!”

Regardless of the reasons, I realize that my ability to put up with OPEB is more scanty nowadays than it used to be. This being said, there are times that we simply cannot dump others for assorted reasons. An example might be when a child is born with special needs, or the job has been down-sized and I cannot find employment while facing foreclosure. At the AHA! realization of
“I cannot get rid of this problem”… another mode of thinking has to be chosen such as, I seek professional help, and I am the one who must do some of the changing. That is where good, solid, and frequent counseling can be a blessed God-Send! There is no valid reason to suffer alone and remain stone silent with something you cannot handle on your own. Thanks for listening and I truly hope some of you awaken to more of your own truths. ;) Ruby *o*
Anonymous said...
For the life of me I could not figure out why I was putting up with so much crappy behavior from others. Instead of looking inside of myself, I just blamed them. Now I see a bit more clearly that when people are habitually having bad moods, I do not have to stick around for it. Bess in New York
I like your article because you make yourself so human. It hit home since we were downsized and we are facing foreclosure. Anon

Thursday, January 15, 2009



A very dear friend asked me to re-post this article
I wrote on.... = Sunday, July 29, 2007 The precious photo is from left to right = My Mom, Me, Dad, and Aunt Lilly. Enjoy, and please do comment! ;) Smiles ~ Ruby *o*

INDIFFERENCE ~ By Dr. InaNorma Yanez, Ch.t
Once upon a time we all lived in tribal environments. Our lives literally depended upon each other so we paid attention to each others’ needs. We all shared food, shelter, and commodities that helped the mutual well-being of the tribe. Medical needs were attended to by the local shaman. As time went by, life evolved, or as some would say, DEVOLVED into bigger and bigger cities….. and eventually families began to move apart. The tribal mentality diminished.Nowadays, we fend for ourselves more and more. The cost is large. Spiritually, psychologically, and even economically speaking, we are more on our own with less and less tribal and familial-like support. Of course there are still families that help each other and stay together. Yet, the tendency to move away is part of our present day societies. Or at least it is in this country. We move because of job and school requirements, health reasons, and an assortment of other concerns. Sometimes we are able to keep our family units together. When we are separated by long distances, it becomes harder to meet up or to assist one another in times of emergency. Even the good times aren’t really shared if we do not see each other in person to do so….What are the costs? Frequently we do not even realize the costs. Those of us who are sensitive do. It is “indifference.” Out of sight and out of mind is often the case. At times there is guilt. Other times a sense of anomie = not feeling cared for….. prevails. But always there is a price for the separations. Little by little we forget what it was like to be together until the relationships begin to wane. Some use the phone system or e-mail to keep in touch. Others spend large sums to fly to be together on certain mutually enjoyed holidays.
But in general, the distance takes its eventual toll. Are we better off for the traveling? You tell me? Are we better off for having left?
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