The Meaning of
Compassion
Compassion is interesting stuff. So interesting, in
fact,
it can get confusing. Confusion may result from the idea
that compassion is enabling. It is not. Enabling is giving another
person permission to act upon or act out inappropriately, whether it
is in the form of
addiction, abuse or any other inappropriate behavior.
When enabling occurs, power is being given away consciously or
unconsciously.
Enabling is allowing your Self to just accept that this
is the way your life is and going to continue to be. Existing in an
ineffective, abusive situation can excuse the abuse or the addiction
by being confused as to what compassion really means. Compassion does
not make it acceptable. Compassion assists you to understand the
other person or persons as dysfunctional, and you get to choose how
you participate or not. Being a victim is not ever acceptable.
You can have compassion while not being a victim and
while not being an enabler. An enabler is actually a victimizer role
which allows your Self to be victimized by the victimizer, the addict
or abuser. As the enabler, you give the victimizer permission to
victimize you and you in turn, through dysfunctional support, become
the victimizer to the victimizer, establishing an intense circle of
confusing behavior. The push-me-pull-ums go 'round and 'round in the
relationship. Everyone walks on egg shells afraid of letting go or
changing. Yet, at times, everyone is still expecting different
results. This is very challenging to be compassionate. It can be
done.
Back to the word compassion! All words that end in -ion
mean at the cellular level or ion level of your consciousness. Some
examples: aggravation, aggravated at your cellular level; depression,
depressed at your cellular level. Compassion is your compass at your
ion or cellular level of consciousness. You have a great guide within
your Self...your compassion. You do have a choice of being clear and
compassionate or staying confused.
When you are compassionate and in compassion, you are
guiding your Self away from fear, anger, depression, sadness...all
the negative stuff that is stuffed in your cells or ion level deep
within you.
Using compassion as a compass, you live your life
through your heart. Guiding your Self from your heart with empathy is
the way of a wonderful deep connection to your Self and others.
Empathy is not emotional. It does not hold emotional hooks to the
past nor emotional pain attached to the past. Empathy allows you to
see from a vantage point without judgment and allows you to stay in
your Power.
Compassion is the compass from your ion or cellular
level which connects you to your innate intuition and Self-trust.
Trust your intuition or "gut" feeling, trust your heart and
you trust your Self without question. Embrace your compassion,
empathy and intuition to support your Self to live a fulfilled life.
Now through your inner guidance, follow your inner
compass from your ion level and be prepared for great relationships
and great things to happen in your life. Compassion is the way of
your heart. You have the way!
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